Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a young man who is try­ing to find my true bearing in life and equally battling with a relationship issue.

I am of the view that despite the challenges that confront man, life must be lived to its fullest. I have been single for the past six years after my first girlfriend broke my heart.

Though I did all I could to make her feel what true happiness was, she succeed­ed in breaking my heart by leaving me for a rich man in our community.

The trust I had in my lady coupled with the pain I en­dured as a result of the break up has made it impossible for me to propose to another lady.

My disappointment is gradually giving way since I am a bit skeptical about en­tering a new relationship due to my past experience.

I am not enthused about the ladies around me who appear to be loving because I feel they could also treat me like my previous lover.

Please how do I know if one of these ladies would be the right person to marry?

Newton, Spintex-Accra.

Dear Newton,

I wish to assure you that women can be trusted and that you cannot judge all women by the character of one woman.

You must stop crying over spilt milk now that your for­mer lady has a lover. Addi­tionally, your action is being guided by the adage which says “Once bitten twice shy.”

It is unfortunate that your past experience in a relation­ship is having a serious effect on your imagination and this is preventing you from taking the next step in your rela­tionship.

Your first experience should not cloud your imagi­nation about the positive side of life. However, you must take inspiration from anoth­er adage which says “If you fail to take risk in life, you cannot win a war.”

You ought to consider taking another risk by going into a relationship, and since all the hands are not equal, you may be surprised to meet a lady with a different character and there is the possibility that the two of you will be compatible and end up becoming a successful couple.