Dear ObaaYaa,
We have been in a stable relationship for a couple of years now and have planned to be together when we are done with our studies and have secured jobs.
Being youth leaders at church and very influential persons, we have decided to abstain from sex as our faith demands and not to live an immoral lifestyle.
We have held unto this agreement for the past years until recently when my friend completed his national service and started living a different lifestyle which is a clear departure from the old.
He is always demanding for sex and threatening to cause separation should l refuse to give in to his sexual demands.
I am surprised about his sudden changed lifestyle and the pressure he is mounting on me. Should l give in to demonstrate my love for him?
Cynthia, Koforidua,
Dear Cynthia,
This column commends the two of you for the wise and bold decision you took when you commenced your relationship. It is rather unfortunate that the ideals you stood for are beginning to fizzle out with time.
Many factors could be working on your friend’s mind and forcing a change in his behaviour. He could have been exposed to some new friends whose ideals might have influenced his lifestyle, so the incessant demands he is making on you.
It is advisable to hold onto your faith and remember the Bible verse which says that your body is the temple of God, therefore, you should preserve it for that purpose.
There is no guarantee that he genuinely loves you and would marry you in future. There is no hurry in life for that matter you must be patient until the appropriate time comes.
You should not be intimidated by his threats to cause separation in your relationship. Life has in store better days with good prospects, provided you are prepared to obey and wait on the lord.