Dear Obaa Yaa,

I have been in a relationship close to five years with a married man and have enjoyed every aspect of it. My lover ensured that we both went on trips within and out of the country.

Our relationship took us through interesting moments and during one of our outings, we were nearly caught in our hideout by his wife who attended a seminar at the same hotel we lodged.

Having suffered many insults and embarrassments from his wife, l became pregnant and he impressed on me to abort it in exchange of a house.

Unfortunately, six months after causing the abortion, my lover decided to back out of the relationship with an excuse that l cheated on him and that he would not allow himself to be deceived by me because he had learnt a bitter lesson from the past.

What should l do?

Sarah, Accra.

Dear Sarah,

The challenges you have gone through explain the fact that it is not safe and acceptable to fall in love with somebody’s husband.

The insults, humiliations and disgrace you might have gone through should be enough to convince you to take a definite decision to break up the relationship with this man.  It is not advisable to take delight in the support you are receiving from him.

You will never know peace so long as you maintain this unhealthy relationship. This is the time to take control of your life and resist the temptation of falling in love with this gentleman again.