Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a Level 300 student in the uni­versity and started a relationship with a gentleman in October last year.

I was deeply involved with him to the extent that I thought I had found the ideal man I had prayed for and was not prepared to listen to anyone but was ready to spend the rest of my life with him.

This young man gave me the assurance that he was everything I needed in a relationship and was prepared to marry me.

Before reaching this decision, he introduced me to a couple of friends that I was the one he was going to marry and promised to take me to his parents. This gave me the impression that I was the only person in his life and that he will do everything to marry me.

Early this year, there were signs that our union was not on a sound footing because he received series of calls from a particular lady but he declined to pick the calls. Later he picked and promised to call the person later. This confirmed my fears that there was something wrong with our relationship.

My initial enquiries proved that he had somebody but he denied when I questioned him. It became clear that the nice bond of love that we claimed to have estab­lished was a stock pile of deceit.

I had the shock of my life when a close friend of his confirmed my fears that my lover has a two-year-old child.

Things became worse before April and we finally had to break up in May.

I never cheated on him but I love this guy and did everything to make him happy. What should I do now since my heart is broken?

Ama, Accra.

Dear Ama,

It is unfortunate that this gen­tleman has given you the false hope that he was going to marry you and the promise made you to put your trust in him.

Now that you know his character do not give him the opportunity to deceive you that it was a mistake.

Remember that this guy cannot be trusted because he has a child and was only making fun of you.

Thank God that the secret sur­rounding this gentleman has been re­vealed and you now know your stand.

Take heart and listen to what your conscience tells you. Re-organ­ise your life and with time, you will definitely get your partner who will be faithful and love you. .