Dear Obaa Yaa,
I entered a relationship three years ago and things were moving on well and we were happy until recently when problems began to emerge.
Going by the advice of my mother not to fall prey to any man who would make fun of me and ruin my life for good, l tried to keep a distance from men until the one who was genuinely prepared to marry me.
This man has proposed to me and has assured me that he is not married and has no child, but i am afraid because i don’t know much about him and having considered his age, i think he must be hiding something under his sleeves.
He has given me the assurance that he would officially seek the consent of my parents to marry me.
However, my concern is, he has set spies on me and they are always checking on every step i take and would not give me breathing space.
They have wrongly accused me of things i have not done, thereby, giving me a bad image in the eyes of the public.
This has given me the reason to believe that this man does not trust me and has ridiculed me.
Since the element of trust is non-existent, i would like to end the relationship.
Akos, Accra.
Dear, Akos,
A lasting relationship is normally built on love, trust, tolerance and willingness to forgive the other partner.
It beats my imagination why this gentleman should set spies on you. On the contrary, it could be that this action is in reaction to an issue which might have happened in the past for which he would like to be careful in order to safeguard his interest in you.
You should let him understand how embarrassed you are about the spies he has set on you. If things continue like this while you are yet to marry, then one can imagine how the future will be if you become a couple.
Secondly, it could be that he is a jealous person who has taken the wrong step by trying to over-protect you through unfaithful friends.
Listen to your conscience and decide on the right action to take in this relationship.