How can I get over this?
Dear Obaa Yaa,
We have been in a relationship over one year. Though things have been moving on well, I have the feeling that this gentleman will one day patch up with his ex-girlfriend and he will dump me.
The fear has come about because his ex-girlfriend visits him at the end of every month to collect money for the upkeep of their child.
Although he keeps assuring me that he loves me, I have my doubts and not convinced that he is sincere and will keep to his words.
I am often worried whenever he travelled out of Accra on a business trip. I do not trust him because of his attitude and his utterances of late.
How can I get over it?
Nana Adzoa- Tema.
Dear Nana Adzoa,
Love thrives on trust and tolerance,therefore, if these ingredients are absent in a marriage,the future becomes uncertain.
You sound as if your boyfriend has given you a reason not to trust him. If you keep on disturbing him, it will drive him away.
Your husband should be careful since his ex- girlfriend visits him every month to get money for the upkeep of their child. The frequent visits could pose a serious problem for your marriage.
I guess your insecurity could be derived from how a past boyfriend might have disappointed you. If that is the case then you must try and get assurance from him.
Instead of worrying unnecessarily which could disturb you, enjoy every moment with him, forget about your previous relationship.
However, if you still feel insecure, then discuss the matter with an elderly priest or person and let him help you to overcome it.