I have this long term relationship with a friend of mine. We attended the same Junior High School as well as the same church. This relationship was still intense even when we were admitted to different Senior High Schools.

We planned things together and settled on one thing. At church, you will see us walking together, which painted a family or sororal relationship in the minds of people.

After Senior High School, the two of us stayed at home for a year to better our grades to enable us to enter the tertiary institution.

Back at church, I went about doing things independently. During the second year after Senior High School, I got admitted to one of the famous tertiary institutions in Ghana. My friend was not able to sail through this time and had to attend another private school again to rewrite. This time round I was away from home.    

During my semester break, I came home to discover that my friend had made friends with another lady in our church. I must admit that this attitude has affected me emotionally and has ruined our relationship to the extent that we no longer talk to each other.

Our parents and colleagues have raised concerns about the cold relationship between us and are anxious to see us moving together once again. This situation has ruined our relationship and l have developed a cold attitude towards her. Now, we are only limited to greetings.  

I still ponder over our relationship in the past and find it difficult to forget about it. How do I rekindle this relationship? 

Deborah Nkansah, Cape Coast,

Dear Deborah,

In life you must be guided by the fact that people are driven by different reasons to behave the way they do.

The sudden change of attitude of your friend devoid of quarrel could be due to her inability to enter the tertiary institution as you have been successful. She might have been suffering from inferiority complex, therefore, she has decided to free herself from your company.

Since you are desirous of resolving the issue, you can employ the best communication skills to establish fresh links with her.