I am a Level 300 student in one of the universities. A businessman proposed love to me two years ago and I must admit that we’ve had interesting moments together.

My lover treated me like a queen and it was always joy when I was in his company, especially when we travelled out of Accra to lovely places for pleasure since I knew I was schooling.

He demanded that I should abort the pregnancy or should not mention his name as the one responsible. He further threatened that I should con­sider the end of the relation­ship if I failed to carry out his instruction.

My fake lover claimed that his intention was to allow me have enough time to com­plete my education uninter­rupted.

I am surprised about the sudden change in his charac­ter, from a seemingly loving person who appeared very humble and promised me heaven on earth as a means to demonstrate his love for me.

Do I have a future with such a person?

Ama, Tema.

Dear Ama,

We often fall in trouble because of our failure to crit­ically think about the conse­quences of certain actions we take in life. As a student your primary duty is to concentrate on your studies and ensure that you achieve your aim of going to school.

You should not forget that your parents have invested their meagre income in your education, hence the need for you to have focused in school.

In the first place, your parents will not be happy that you are pregnant there­by defeating your purpose of going to school.

The predicament you find yourself suggests that your parents have wasted their resources in your education, a situation which will give people in the community the opportunity to rain insults on you.

Going by the adage, “Two wrongs do not make a right,” I will suggest that you maintain the pregnancy irrespective of the fact that you will incur the displeasure of your par­ents, relatives and friends.

Abortion displeases God, and you can either die in the process or become barren as a result. Do not succumb to the pressure from your boyfriend who has a child.

You have to defer the course to give birth and be ready for the insults and ridicule.

You must plead for forgive­ness from your parents and let life go on, though it will be difficult to go through the period.

Remain resolute in the face of this challenge and you will emerge victorious, provided you remain focused in life.

A female lawyer shared her experience during a televi­sion discussion that she had to defer school when she got pregnant, was delivered of the baby, after which she continued her education. She commended her mother who took care of her baby while she returned to school.

This man cannot be trusted since his aim was to satisfy his sexual pleasure.