Dear Obaa Yaa,

We met in church and have since become very close to the extent that people refer to us as siblings. Though we stay far from each other, we make time to meet at the least opportunity during the day.

With time, l got to know that he has a child with a lady but has not married her due to the threats he had received from her parents.

 He told me he had lost interest in the lady because of the sudden change in her behaviour.

What made matters worse was that her parents said they would not allow me to marry their daughter because l was poor and she would suffer if l married her.

Though matters had gone this way, he loved this lady and they often talked about their child. The two of us have decided not to indulge in sex throughout the period of our courtship and thank God we have kept to this promise.

We enjoyed the best of life, no quarrels and we always tried to patch up any misunderstanding between us.

My fear is that since l have not received any confirmation from him, don’t you think he can possibly go back for this girl, since they have a child?

Mary, Accra.

Dear Mary,

I think you have met a good young man who can support you as a reliable husband.

Judging from what you have said about the two former lovers, the possibility of the two coming together is great.

Secondly, the young man’s fortune could change to pave the way for re-marriage. Should this happen, you have nothing to lose because you have played it safe by not indulging in sex, which could probably cloud your ability to take the right decision.

This lady could easily convince people that you have forcefully taken her husband from her.

You could be jumping before the horse, therefore, control yourself and see how things will unfold as time goes by.