Is cohabitation good for future marriage?

Is cohabitation good for future marriage?

 Couples living together, cohabiting or coexisting, and sharing sexual intimacy before marriage, is said to increase or encourage divorce.

This has been confirmed by Ambert (2009) who explained that cohabited couples are less committed and can easily decide to go or come out of a relationship as compared to married couples who are much committed.

Moreover, multiple cohabitations (with different partners in previous relationships) before marriage in­crease the risk of divorce.

The reason is that when such a couple is married, they are more like­ly to opt for divorce easily since they have previous records of often ending cohabited relationships before they finally married the one they are with.

Rodrigues, Hall and Fincham (2006) revealed in their findings that men and women who cohabit their future spouses before marriage have a higher likelihood of divorce as compared to their counterparts who do not.

On the extreme end, a research study has shown that cohabitation which involved only one partner stands a lower risk of divorce after marriage than cohabitation which involved series of partners.

Nevertheless, the divorce risk for one partner cohabitation is still higher than a couple who did not cohabit at all.

What does all this mean to you? Are you and your partner cohabiting before your marriage?

These research findings confirm that not only is the Christian teaching against cohabitation a spiritual rea­son; but in addition, it is a well-docu­mented research fact attesting to the infallibility of the Holy Scriptures.

They confirm that the Bible is true in all its foundational teachings.

Thankfully, as Christian partners who are governed by the authority of the Holy Scriptures, I am sure you have been taught in one way or the other to stay away from cohabiting since it is not a godly or holy way of living in the sight of the Almighty God. The Church’s teaching on cohabitation is not an ‘arbitrary’ rule.

Living together before marriage is a sin; because it violates God’s commandments and the law of the Church.

As earlier stated, by the word ‘cohabitation’, we mean the practice of a man and a woman living together, and sharing sexual intimacy, without being married. The only sexual rela­tions that are approved by God are inside the covenant of marriage.

Cohabitation is not a modern trend; it dates back through most of history. In the Roman city of Corinth, sex outside of marriage was common, so much so that the converts to Chris­tianity had written to the Apostle Paul about the problem. His reply was:

“Now concerning the matters about which you wrote:

“It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman. But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband.” (1 Cor. 7:1 3, ESV)

Paul gave this instruction because he understood that God’s purpose for sex was inside the commitment of marriage. Sex outside the marriage relationship is called ‘sexual immoral­ity’.

Source: Excerpts from ‘Preparing for a Happy and Fulfilling Marriage’ Book by REV.

COUNSELOR PRINCE OFFEI (Psy­chotherapist and Marriage Thera­pist).

Author, Psychotherapist, Psychol­ogist, Marriage Therapist & Reverend Minister

Counselor Prince & Associates Consult (CPAC)  

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