Dear Obaa Yaa,
I am a girl of 17 years and in love with a 22- year- old boy. We have planned to marry in future.
Unfortunately, my dear one is in love with another lady who is a talkative person and responsible for every misunderstanding in the community. This lady is known for causing a stir in the area and has succeeded in bringing problems among families.
On many occasions, my lover had praised people who were frank to express their feelings and on the other hand said l was too quiet for his liking.
Though we move on very well, l have realised that he loves the other lady more than he loves me and from all indications he is likely to marry her instead of me.
I love him so much and l would like to be his wife. What can l do to win his love? I cannot stay without him.
Maame Esi,
Accra.
Dear Maame Esi,
Your letter contains a lot of information and warnings from which one can easily draw useful lessons.
In the first instance, you are too young to be saddled with marital issues. What you ought to do now is to concentrate on your education, try to secure a firm ground, attain the required age before you marry.
Your lover has informed you about the type of lady he loves. His revelation that you are too quiet for his liking is a clear signal that you are not in his good books and he could easily leave you for the other lady.
Irrespective of the fact that you have planned to marry and you still love him, you must get yourself ready for any eventualities.
Couple who love each other no matter their differences can stay together for a long time. However, where there are differences at the beginning of the relationship and preferences are made, then one must be careful and take a wise decision at the right time.
Though you love him and are prepared to marry him, he does not reciprocate the same measure of love for you, therefore, you cannot force him to love you. Don’t worry if he decides to end the relationship.