Dear ObaaYaa,

We were both students in the university and though we read different courses, with time, we later became very close to each other.

The love we developed for each other grew to a stage where we could not resist our inner feelings and she became pregnant.  Though embarrassed initially, I gathered courage and pleaded with her to abort the pregnancy since we were in the final year getting ready for the final examination and could not cater for a baby.

Despite her sound religious background, she did not object to my proposal and we aborted the pregnancy, though we were not happy.

Luckily, we completed successfully and l was able to secure a job after the mandatory National Service.  She is yet to be employed and we have maintained the friendship till now.

Unfortunately, l am torn between her and another lady l came across in my office whose character has appealed to me and l would like to marry her instead of my former girlfriend.

What do you have to say about my decision?

Paul, Accra.

Dear Paul,

You have been in a relationship with this lady from the time you were in the university and have admitted that you went through interesting moments and took unfavourable decisions.  The decision, I believe was to safeguard your interest and protect your future.

Having come this far, it will be inappropriate for you to snub this lady and marry a- new-found lover.

Abortion has rendered some women barren for life and they will continue to blame themselves for their inability to reject the decision to abort.

Should this first lady become barren, you will not know peace in your marriage and she willnot also be happy.

But if you marry her, both of you can device an alternative means of solving the problem.

Since two persons cannot be the same, try to tolerate your first lover and marry her.