Dear ObaaYaa,

I met this beautiful lady at a party which was organised by a relative of mine and we fell in love.

We got well with each other and our love developed. All this while, she enquired from me if I was married or had a child and told her that her concerns were correct.

She became happy as a result of my assurance and vowed that she would not allow any lady to snatch me from her. My lady promised to give me the happiness I needed and would work hard to give me every support in our marriage.

Since we were always together in the full glare of others, people got to know of our intention to marry.

A friend who knows me has advised that i should not be in haste to marry her but be careful and study her character because she is quarrelsome and could pose problems for me when i marry her.

Though i have considered this man intruding into my love affairs, i have reluctantly decided to listen to his advice.

So I apologised to my lady that my office could not raise the funds i requested for to help me organise the wedding hence the need to postpone it until my finances had improved to which she did not complain.

Staying together for two months has brought a lot of dust from under the carpet and you will not believe that the problems are enormous. Sometimes, i want to leave the house in order to avoid quarrels and maintain my peace.

Having known the sort of person she is, it was painful for me to leave her though the love is still there.

Do you consider my decision as good?

Frank, Accra.

Dear Frank,

You must consider yourself very fortunate to get someone to advice you otherwise you would have been shocked with her true character after marriage. You must count yourself very lucky because others could not get people to advise them on the right decision to take.

Having described how lovely, resourceful and hardworking she is, it must be painful to separate on this note.

Though painful, your decision to separate is good because you will have your peace of mind.