Dear Obaa Yaa,

I was in two serious relationships, we loved each other and had wanted to marry but this could not go on as we had planned.

Though l was disturbed when l broke up with the lady in my first relationship, l felt very bad when the second one  also ended abruptly.

But l must be quick to point out that my inability to support the two ladies caused the break up in the two relationships.

I made the necessary efforts to get a job in order to improve on my economic fortunes but things could not work out well.

Unfortunately, other men who were ready to marry succeeded in snatching the ladies from me. The situation has left me under pressure and has given me a lot to think about.

The second lady said she loved  me but my inability to secure a job caused her to accept the proposal from the other man. She confided in me that she still loved me despite all that had happened between us.

According to her she had to accept the proposal from the husband because of too much pressure mounted on her by her parents.

Given the opportunity to make her decision, she would accept to marry me but was afraid of what her parents would say.

What should l do?

Tawiah, Accra

Dear Tawiah,

I find your letter quite disturbing because of the series of disappointments you have had so far.

It is good to be forthright in this matter and you must be commended for identifying the cause of  ypour problem.

Though you are making frantic efforts to secure a job in order to stop the recurrent problem of unsuccessful marriages, it is believed that you have the prerequisite qualification and luck will surely shine on you one day.

Having accepted to marry that man should be enough to sever relations with your former girlfriend who can easily find trouble for you.