Dear Obaa Yaa,

We were classmates and later fell in love after we had completed school. Though l was pregnant at a time he was not employed and, therefore, had to depend solely on our parents, our love for each other was great.

He was forced to perform my marriage rites after which l moved to stay in his house.

We spent precious times together and made fervent prayers for God’s intervention in our marriage. Fortunately, God listened to our prayers and he secured a job which exceedingly gladdened my heart.

 I thought that would permanently end our suffering but that rather marked the beginning of my worries. 

Weeks after my husband had got the job, he always gave excuses of attending meetings after work, delayed in coming from work and finally chose to sleep in town.

 After some months, he packed his things from the house and went to stay with another woman and has since failed to visit me.

Four years later and now that he has lost his job, he is pleading that l should accept him back. Is it my fate to cater for a jobless husband?

What step should l take?

Mary, Tema.

Dear Mary,

There is no transparency in the character of your husband because he only knows you exist only when he is in crises but shuns your company when conditions have changed.

There is no guarantee that he will stay glued to you when he gets another job.

l don’t think your husband can be trusted based on his previous behaviour.