Some reasons you are always attracting the wrong guy (final)
- You consider that you can change the depraved boys
Depraved boys are just bad boys. Plain and simple. There is little to no possibility of changing them to be better unless they make the conscious decision to change themselves. It would help if you stopped seeing relationships with people as projects you can continue working on. You can’t force a fish to climb a tree, and you’ll only come up on the losing end with high expectations like those. Learn to be a better judge of character at the start and save yourself any potential headaches and heartbreaks in the future.
- Choosing style over substance
Sure. He could be decked out in the latest threads from brands like Armani, Gucci, and Prada. But if he still has a crappy personality, no amount of high-end brands will be able to hide it. A person’s personality will always end up shining through whatever piece of clothing they have on.
- You lower your standards out of desperation to be in a relationship
You’ve been out of a relationship for so long, and everywhere you look, your friends’ love lives are just blooming. You’re not getting any younger and you’re starting to feel the social pressures of getting in a relationship that you end up lowering your standards for the sake of being in a relationship. Don’t blame anyone else when you’re feeling miserable in the end.
- He’s rude to others, but you consider he’ll be nice to you
Always be observant of how a person treats other people. These are blatant indications of how they are as people, and you would never want to be on the receiving end of someone terrible to others. Chances are, if a person is a terrible person when interacting with others, he or she will be the same towards you.
- You wrongly equate age with maturity
Age is not an indication of maturity. You can measure maturity with intelligence, empathy, and eloquence. Don’t just get with an older man/woman just because you’re looking for something a little more mature. This is an impractical standard that you have set for yourself, and you will only be left disappointed if things don’t work out in the end.