Things you shouldn’t tolerate in a relationship (II)
A partner who does not publicly acknowledge your relationship
If you and your partner have mutually decided to enter a committed relationship and not a casual dating, or hookup situation, then it shouldn’t be a secret (unless, of course, there are reasons you two have chosen to keep it under wraps, away from familial and social pressures, etc.) However, if that is not the case with your relationship, yet they won’t introduce you to friends as a significant other, and then consider it a red flag.
A partner who does not respect your boundaries
Does your partner joke about traumatic things that aren’t funny? Are you in recovery from drug and/or alcohol addiction, and your partners offer you these substances or consume them around you, even if you’ve expressed your discomfort? Do they talk about their exes in a way that makes you uneasy? Does your partner share information about your private lives with others despite your protests? These are just a few ways that a partner can overstep your boundaries, and you should let them know that these are dealbreakers.
A partner who always accuses you of cheating
You should not have to sever relationships with close friends because of your partner’s insecurity. If certain aspects of your friendship make your partner uncomfortable, then you should absolutely listen to their concerns and evaluate how your behaviour may be hurtful. However, if your partner constantly accuses you of cheating with one or multiple friends, even though you haven’t and there is no cause for suspicion, then something is wrong. Your partner must recognise that you are a person outside of the relationship and that you were a person before the relationship.