I am in my mid-twenties and had just started my national service. I am single and do not have any intentions of starting a serious relationship at the moment. But I am worried as a woman who has two children continues to pester me into having an affair with her. I have told her I am not interested but she says I am “playing with her feelings.” She has started blackmailing me emotionally and it is becoming too much for me to handle. Please advise me.

Francis, Taifa

Dear Francis,

You have made the right decision to turn down her advances. Indeed, you are too young to start such relationship. Continue to shun her company and block any form of communication you have with her.  She is supposed to be enjoying her marriage not to extend her untamed pleasures to you. Do not allow her to blackmail you emotionally. If you reside in the same vicinity but try and move to a location unknown to her and blacklist her contact numbers.