Dear ObaaYaa,

We have been good friends for a couple of years and our friendship resulted in intimate activities through which l became pregnant.
Throughout our friendship, he kept postponing my request to know his parents, though l know two of his siblings.
Over the years, he promised to marry me and crown our marriage with a wedding.
Now that l am pregnant, heartbreaking revelations are springing up each day. I am surprised to learn that he has a wife and a child in his village.
This discovery has made me to be ashamed of myself, left me confused and l am angry with this gentleman who has made my life miserable.
The predicament in which l find myself makes me feel sick because my mother warned me not to have anything to do with a married man since such relationships are fraught with problems and disgrace.
 Should l abort the pregnancy or what? 

Ama, Nsawam.

Dear Ama,

You should have listened to the passionate advice of your mother to chart a straight path in life but it is unfortunate you did the contrary.

Now that the harm has been done, you have to plead with your parents to forgive your refusal to listen to them.

Two wrongs do not make a right so forget about aborting the pregnancy and liaise with the gentleman to take care of you through your pregnancy till the time you are delivered of the baby.

Having gone through this turbulent period successfully, make sure you do not fall into the same problem again.