Dear Obaa Yaa

I am a final year student at the Pentecost University where I met a lady and fell in love with her during my internship.

Though I have expressed my feelings to her, she in­sists we move our relation­ship at a steady pace.

Honestly, I am not worried about her suggestion for that approach, so far as the relationship is concerned. Why should I pretend to love and be her friend when my feelings for her are more than that?

Meanwhile, there are moments she wants us to go out and have fun, yet when I make advances towards her, she brushes me aside.

What should I do?

Kofi, Accra.

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Dear Kofi,

I don’t believe you have a problem as your letter explains.

There is nothing wrong to fall in love with this lady and tell her about your feelings.

It is interesting to know that this lady has adopted an intelligent approach of building the friendship gradually.

Note that this relationship could progress into marriage if things go on planned. Do not forget that marriage is a life-long journey which de­mands you to take the right decision at the right time so that you may not regret in future.

I think her decision to adopt a gradual approach to the relationship will prevent the two of you from taking hasty decisions.

Going out for fun forms part of the gradual approach in a relationship.

Allow her to take a decision at the appropriate time as you do well to also control your feelings.