Some ways to manage the ups and downs in your relationship
• Relationships have their ups and downs, endeavour to sail through
Many of my people bemoan that they take two steps forward and three steps back wards while others see things more positively and acknowledge that they take two steps forward and one step back on their journey to having a caring, understanding, supportive and passionate relationship.
They express pain that their journey is not straight forward yet one that ‘zigs and zags’ with numerous curves. This also applies to folks expressing pain about losing weight and gaining it back or about establishing abstinence from a compulsion, whether it is gambling, emotional eating, drugs or alcohol and then relapsing. Still others talk about having quiet meditations filled with rampant thoughts and emotional agitation and irritability. And yes, undoubtedly, it is painful when there are setbacks on the journey,
Examples of moving forward and backwards in your relationship
• Feeling very close and intimate and later distant and disconnected
• Communicating in ways that you feel heard, accepted and supported and other times communicating in a harsh manner where you feel unheard, rejected and disrespected
• Resolving differences and conflicts effectively sometimes while other times your efforts seem to make matters worse resulting in ongoing disagreements and conflicts
• Having satisfying, passionate and intimate sex while other times it feels rote, mundane and boring
• Sharing joy, laughter and fun while other times you push each other’s buttons
• Experiencing times of calm and ease with one another which may be suddenly interrupted by an intense explosive fight leaving you confused and shocked and wondering “where that came from”
• Gazing at your partner and having the conviction that you are with your soul mate and other times wondering “who is this person and how did I end up with him/her”
• Agreeing on lifestyle and financial needs and wants compared to strongly disagreeing about these things.
• Wanting to spend as much time with your partner as possible and other times wanting to be alone or with friends, or maybe even wanting to be as far away from you partner as possible.
To be continued…
Source: www.marriage.com
