Dear Obaa Yaa,

l met my boyfriend five years ago after he had completed Senior High School and could not continue  his education due to poverty.

Though a teenager, l had established myself in a lucrative business and was able to expand it to an appreciable height which enabled me to support him to continue his education.

I managed throughout the period until he had his first degree and did his National Service at Mankesim where l visited him a couple of times.

After the service, he opted to teach in a private school to while away the time. After two years, he was able to secure a job at Takoradi and had to move there.

Friends advised me to convince him to marry me but he pleaded that he would like to gather some money before taking that step.

Months followed and my boyfriend failed to visit home as he used to and prevented me from paying him visits with the excuse that his school had arranged series of weekend trips and extra lessons for the school children.

A good friend who knew of our friendship later told me that my lover was married with a child at his new location. Several attempts made to get him on phone to respond to my concerns and questions failed.

A few days ago, he informed me that he was no longer interested in me and that he was prepared to pay for the cost l had incurred in his education.

I was disturbed, cried for weeks unending and in the process fell sick for one month.

Please my heart is troubled about his behaviour and l am not thinking about the money l have spent to educate him. However, l am disappointed in him. What step should l take?  

Comfort, Koforidua

Dear Comfort,

You must be commended highly for the effort you have made in educating your boyfriend who has turned out to become ungrateful.

It is, indeed, true that you must be having traumatic experiences and need a counselor to take you through series of lessons in order to calm the growing tension in you.

Though it is not easy to bear such a painful experience, you must try to overcome the pain this gentleman has caused you.

Put your trust in God and do not forget that He is the greatest provider, will help you out of this problem and reward you with a better husband.

God could be taking you from a serious problem in the future if this gentleman had married you.