Dear Obaa Yaa,

 We became close mates at school, attended lectures together, held discussions, studied and did assignments together. These academic activities were carried out in a frank atmosphere and we were happy we had completed our programmes with good grades.  

A year after completing school, we continued to exchange text messages, made regular calls and he visited me a couple of occasions. With time, we continued to share intimate information and it became obvious that we loved each other.

This realisation intensified our way of thinking, how we carried and conducted ourselves in public. We managed to meet after church every Sunday to spend a few moments together.

Unfortunately, l became pregnant but was shocked to hear from my lover that he was not responsible for the pregnancy. He failed to call on me as he used to and even blocked my telephone line. This gave me the reason to infer that my so- called lover did not genuinely love me per the action that he took.

Embarrassed about this unfortunate incident, l had to break the news to my mother who later informed my father.

My parents had to consult his parents to trash out the matter.       

I was disappointed in him because it became abundantly clear that he was not sincere in his dealings with me.

The matter was finally resolved and his family had to support me financially until l was delivered of my baby and continued for the upkeep of the baby.

When the dust finally settled, he said he was very sorry for what had happened but l must indicate that l was disgraced and seriously hurt by someone who claimed he loved me.

Jennifer, Accra.

Dear Jenifer,

Mutual love can only triumph in an atmosphere where sincerity plays a meaningful part of one’s dealing with the other person. It means love for one another should be paramount even going to the extent of laying down one’s life for the other.

Certain things happen in our lives to teach us lessons, either to prepare us against challenges in future or keep our conducts in check.

Experience is the best teacher, so goes the popular saying, and having known the true character of your so-called lover, you are at liberty to make a definite decision about your dealings with him.

This unfortunate incident has taught you a lesson which you will never forget.

Notwithstanding this incident, concentrate on whatever you are doing to derive maximum benefit from it.