Dear Obaa Yaa,

I am a third- year student in a tertiary institution and deeply in love with a married man.
This man loves me and has told me he would like to marry me since his marriage is on the verge of collapse.
According to him, there have been repeated misunderstandings between him and his wife so they have agreed to separate for some months to see if conditions will improve.
For the past two years, this man has been disturbing me that he would marry me at all cost.
He kept showering gifts on me and l could not help but succumb to his sexual demands.
When l became pregnant, he impressed on me to abort it because he had not yet severed relations with his wife.
In fact l felt cheated and betrayed to hear this from him.
Despite showering gifts on me l am planning quitting this relationship because l can envisage a bleak future. Can you advise me on the right step to take?
Victoria, Accra.     

Dear Victoria,
There are many marriages which are not doing well yet the couples are still staying together. This is to say that there is no successful marriage on earth and it is not easy breaking up marriages despite the difficulties.
Your lover is taking advantage of you and the earlier you break up with him the better it will serve your interest.
His insistence that you should abort the pregnancy should ring a bell in your ears that you have no future so long as you follow this married man.
Why don’t you work hard to become independent and forget about this man who can easily patch up with the wife and things will be normal once again. 
Forget the gifts he is showering on you and do not waste your precious time on him.
Concentrate on your studies to complete your programme after which you will get a partner of your choice.