Dear Obaa Yaa,

We have been married for 10 years and blessed with four children – two boys and two girls.

Recently my husband has been making statements suggesting that the children do not resemble him and therefore suspect that l had ex­tra-marital affair.

We went for DNA tests and the results show that the four children are his.

Despite this evidence, he still does not believe it. What should I do be­cause I am getting confused with the situation?

Kruwaa, Taifa.

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Dear Kruwaa,

There is a lot of suspicion in marriage if children do not resemble their fathers. There are similar situations when these children do not resemble their mothers that carried the pregnancy for nine months, yet no one raises any alarm over it.

There are instances where some children resemble rela­tives of either parents.

When there are doubts, the only accurate means to ascertain the truth is through a DNA test.

If you have gone through this sci­entific method to verify the paternity of the children and your husband is still not satisfied, then one cannot tell what will convince him.

Once your hands are clean in this matter, remain calm and try to provide the necessary assistance your children need. Since he is still not convinced that the children are his, there is a likelihood that he will not lend his support in their upbringing.