Dear ObaaYaa,
Our lovely relationship which almost resulted in marriage ended abruptly because my lady became suspicious of my movements.

Though she visited me occasionally at home, it was quite embarrassing since all activities were given different interpretations and I became miserable and sometimes confused about the next step to take.

The situation degenerated since we had petty quarrels, frequent problems and there were occasions we would not talk to each other for weeks.

Unknown to us, our house owner, an elderly woman with five children who was very fond of me, later advised that we should separate for a couple of months and our problem would be solved.

Staying in the same compound house with her, she studied the two of us from a distance and used her rich experience to diagnose our problem.

I wrote to your column with this problem and you advised that we should keep our cool for time would heal our differences and things would be well.

We went apart as suggested and I was surprised that the period of separation rather brought out the best in the two of us to enrich our union which has now blossomed.

Kwame, Kasoa.

Dear Kwame,

Trials and temptations generally go to confirm one’s strength in life. The ability to emerge victorious after going through challenges keeps one stronger than ever and that is what you have been able to achieve.

Thank God that you have settled your differences amicably, no trace of suspicion and things are fine between the two of you.

Though the good counsel of the old woman has worked to perfection, the two of you must be commended for ensuring that peace has prevailed eventually.
Promote what will keep the relationship growing and guard against negative acts which are likely to mar your future marriage.