How to love a woman who has been through rough relationships
Life is always going to bring with it a fair share of challenges. That’s mostly what life is all about. It’s still a series of ups and downs. You can’t always be having it good in this world. You are going to have to go through some rough parts just to balance out the good.
In a way, you’re going to have to go through ugly phases in life, so you gain a better appreciation for the more beautiful parts. But sometimes, life doesn’t always play fairly. And sometimes, some of us have to go through more rough parts than good ones. And when overdone, it can damage a person.
But we will not be without our scars. We will not be without our wounds and our brokenness. We will not be without our damaged selves. And it takes so much strength to be able to get back up and say, “I’m ready for more,” even when you can barely stand.
That’s why it might be a little more difficult for you to fall in love with a woman who has undergone significant challenges in her life. This is why it’s going to be challenging to accommodate her in your heart – she is going to have the natural impulse to resist.
She is going to harden herself, and she’s going to make it so much harder for you to penetrate her armour. You are going to have to make sure that you are as patient and as understanding as possible if you want to love her. She is ‘damaged beyond repair’ – but maybe, you’re exactly what she might need to feel better again.
You have to keep in mind that this woman has been rechallenged by lifetime and time. She has been through her fair share of severe trials and tests. And so she’s probably going to test you just as much. She’s going to push you just as harder. She’s going to challenge your willingness to have her in your life.
Because of how much she’s been through, she might be a little emotionally unstable – and you’re going to have to deal with that. She’s going to make it so hard for you to love her, but you’re going to have to do it all the same. She has been hurt so many times before, and so she’s going to try to hurt you as a form of vengeance – even when it wasn’t your fault that she got hurt in the first place.
She is afraid of putting herself through more pain, and so she might not be so keen on letting you in right away. But you have to work hard at getting her to lower her defences for you.
To be continued…