Dear Obaa Yaa,

It is exactly four years now since I befriended a lady who I got along with very well. She was very friendly and the easy-go type. In no time, she became a ‘darling girl’ of a few friends of mine.

The bond grew stronger and a few around us suspected we were actu­ally dating.

One thing led to another and we had an affair after which we asked ourselves how it happened but we remained cool with ourselves.

It was after the act that she told me about her fiancé living in the USA but had not shown any seriousness in the relationship and was opened to any serious guy that comes around.

We continued having affair as and when we felt like and never both­ered each other over whether we should be in a proper relationship.

She later relocated to Kumasi as her father was transferred but we remained buddies, charting heartily on phone for some time until she got a job that engaged her a lot.

Recently, I met an old friend of mine who has also relocated to Accra from Kumasi and after a brief chat, he promised to introduce his wife-to-be to me.

On the said date when we met, it was this good old friend of mine and that has left me confused over whether to tell my friend or not, although we vowed to keep what happened between us as a secret.

Lee Manuel, Ablekuma

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Dear Lee Manuel,

Your story is a very touching and emotional one but I am glad you opened up to me for advice. First of all, I would advise you open up to your friend to let him know everything that has happened so that he knows the kind of lady he is about to marry.

She lied and was not loyal to both you and your friend which is not right and fair.

If you keep the ‘secret’ to yourself and not open up, your friend will be disappointed in you when he finds out from someone else.

Remember what ever goes around comes around so be open and tell your friend. Let him know because he was not in the fray when you two were frolicking around.

All the best in your approaches and remember not to hide anything but tell the truth to your friend.