Dear Obaa Yaa,

I have been married for over two years to a wonderful lady I am four years older than.

Due to transportation challenges, we moved from Kasoa to Accra where we all work – but in different companies.

After going through the usual ‘hustle-and-bustle’ of accommodation searching in Accra, I met a young lady in her early 40s at a work gathering.

After exchanging pleasantries, we had some nice chat through which I told her I was looking for a place to stay with my wife.

She offered to help and truly, she gave me an address to a three-bedroom apartment for inspection and let her know whether I was interested.

I rushed to inspect it but the price the agent quoted was outrageous. After negotiating, he asked me to see the owner. To my surprise, this young lady happened to be the owner and decided to reduce the price for me to pay a year’s ‘advance.’

Few months after moving in my wife had a scholarship to study abroad. And ever since this lady visited once and got to know my wife had travelled, she has been pestering me for sex and has even asked me not to pay the rental fee if the current one expires.

Please what should I do?

Obed Samuels

Dansoman

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Dear Obed Samuels,

Your situation is very dicey but God will see you through.

You should never try cheating on your wife no matter the situation. Let the landlady know that you are not interested in having any affair with her especially when you are married and you have a responsible role to play.

Let her know that you are in a position to pay for the rent every year and therefore will not stay in the room for free.

Have a talk with her and appreciate her for all the good things she has done for your family by saying thank you.  Let her understand you value your friendship with her very much and would not let any affair or emotions ruin that.

You love your wife and these are some of the challenges that come in the marriage therefore you should not give up but be firm as a man to fight against obstacles and setbacks.

I wish you all the best in everything and always pray to God to help you overcome such challenges. Stay blessed.