Dear Obaa Yaa,

l am a 29-year-old farmer and my lady is 25. We are in the third year of our relationship and we love each other dearly.

If l do not see her for hours in a day, l would take the pains to look for her. She cooks for me every day at her own expense, and buys many things for me, including some nice shirts.  

She often accompanies me to places, provided she has time to spend.

My lady is a trader and l have given her a substantial capital to trade with.

The problem is that when l talk to her about marriage, she does not give me a favourable response. This gives me the impression that she is no longer interested to marry me.

My checks showed that another man had proposed to marry her and she did not deny it when l enquired from her.

I advised her to break up the relationship with the gentleman but there is evidence that she is still in close contact with him.

I am troubled as l do not want to lose this girl. What should l do?

John, Akuse

Dear John,

Love for the opposite sex should flow naturally, therefore, it is not advisable to force someone to marry you.

You must be commended for taking pains in supporting this lady to be financially independent.

The fact that she did not deny her relationship with the gentleman is an indication that she is taking time to make comparison between the two of you before making her final decision.

You have to check whether your behaviour is what this lady frowns upon or there is something about you that she detests.

If she has finally decided to opt for the gentleman, then quickly re-organise your life, take some time to get another lover who will love you to guarantee a blessed and peaceful marriage life in the future.