Dear Obaa Yaa,

We were lovers for a couple of years and things were moving on well for us, a condition which gave us much joy. Encouraged by how things went between us, we planned to seal our relationship with a memorable marriage.

Unfortunately, my lady, with reasons best known to her, be­came dissatisfied with me, her character suddenly changed towards me and shunned my company a few months ago.

After one year, she entered into another relationship and had a child.

The child is five years old and she has started calling my number frequently to find out how I am doing.

Though we sometimes exchanged pleasantries and talked for some period, I have been very careful not to be enticed by her in any way.

Surprisingly, she has been pleading that she wronged me, adding that I should take her back since she made a mistake by leaving me for another man who has neglected her eventu­ally and got married.

My worry is that she won the hearts of my parents and they wished she was my wife, but they were disappointed at the decision she took.

Though she is out of my way, they occasionally mention her in their conversations, an indication that they still have her in mind. Should I accept her back?

Michael, Kaneshie-Accra.

Dear Michael,

Love strives on many things, including tolerance, perseverance, the willingness to forgive and fruitful condi­tions.

I am pretty sure your lover might have seen something good in the person who had lured and eventually won her love.

It is good she had the op­portunity to study the two of you and has now inferred that you are better than the other man, hence her decision to plead for forgiveness that you take her back.

Do not be in hurry to make a hasty decision in this case since you could be making a mistake. You ought to take your time, seek the consent of your parents since she was in their good books before her abrupt decision to leave you.

Love has deeper meaning and various considerations which must be carefully em­ployed. In view of this, you have to listen to your con­science and go by it.

My conviction is that having known each other very well will provide the mutual under­standing which is necessary for your marriage to last.