Dear Obaa Yaa,

My husband and I have been living together for four years now. We have everything one needs to live a comfortable life.

The love we shared was envied by lots of people including our close friends.

My only problem with the marriage is that within the four years of our marriage I haven’t been able to give my husband a child.

Initially, my husband was okay with me not being able to give him any child since we got married.

However, the continuous pressure from my husband’s family has become unbearable hence my husband is forced to do what his family members are requesting him to do.

My husband is forced to take a second wife who will be able to bear him a child or children.

I have no option than to allow him get a second wife.

However, I am confused as to whether what I’m about to do is the right way to go about the situation.

Please tell me, what should I do?

Faustina Kaneshie.

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Dear Faustina,

I’m sorry about the situation you are going through and it’s my deep­est regret that this is happening to you.

First of all, children are gifts from God and therefore not from man. Man is only the passage way for the gifts of God to be seen physically and that is children. Be more prayerful and trust God to see you through these difficult times.

Don’t allow your husband to bring or marry a second wife. Marrying a second wife will still not solve your problem. Tell him that you are not happy about the idea of him marrying another woman.

Remind him of the promise he made to you through the exchange of vows that he wasn’t going to leave you through difficult times. This issue is an example of one of the difficult times therefore both of you should be backing it up with prayers and you would sail through.